"If you believe in yourself, anything is possible."
If you wait for outside sources to validate you, then you will always be giving away your power. It starts with you. Do you want to feel more confident? Do you want a loving relationship? Do you want to feel that your talented and successful? Allow yourself to believe in all that you can be. If you want more respect, start by showing more respect towards others.
Often times outside sources can try to hold us back or even have us questioning ourselves. Do not allow others and their perception of you be the deciding factor on what you can or cannot do! We are all viewing life with our own thoughts, knowledge and beliefs. Some of us were fortunate enough to be raised by spiritually aware parents that put no limits on our imaginations and self-worth. We were allowed to believe that we could do whatever we set out to do. Others were raised by parents who had a more narrow, limited way of thinking and convinced us that we could only do this or be that. And even more sad were the ones that were abused verbally and physically and were told horrific things that became a part of their belief system. Allow yourself to go back to your child-like self. What did you dream of? What did you tell your friends "when I grow up, I'm gonna be..." Don't let other peoples ideas of what you aught to be determine what you are able to do. Look to what you can have and do. Don't allow anyone or anything to stop you. Start to look and think about yourself in a new way. When you believe in yourself, others will too. Look back to a moment in your life when you made a decision and many around you were against it. Maybe even try to talk you out of it. Did you persevere? Did you listen to your own self and say "I am going to do this!" What steps did you take to get the courage to believe in yourself without listening to the naysayers. You are the only one who can change the story about yourself. How? By changing what you believe about yourself. If you have been told that you are anything less perfection; this is not your truth. Learn to love and believe in yourself like never before. Your brain will try to tell you "you can't do that!" or "don't try or you will fail." But, the mind only tricks us into thinking we are something we are not. Think about how a computer autocorrects a word. The word is used repeatedly enough that it remembers how to spell it. Our brain works the same way with our beliefs about ourselves. So, we need to go deep inside to correct the original spelling error which is "I can't" to an automatic "I can!" Then we truly start to believe in ourselves and become what is our birthright: an unlimited soul that is powerful beyond imagination.
"Sunsets are proof, that endings can often be beautiful too." Beau Taplin
Often times you part ways but a feeling of yearning remains. Your imagination turns this former partner into an ideal and you experience painful longing which cannot be satisfied. Thoughts that no one better will come tear you apart. This aching, clinging feeling will interfere with new romantic relationships trying to come to you. Releasing these feelings of a one sided relationship will help you to get rid of these ideas that play out over and over in your mind.
How to release unhealthy yearnings:
Step 1.) Break free from this fantasy in your mind that isolates you.
Step 2.) Acknowledge infinite opportunities that are here for you.
Step 3.) Connect in your heart to the soul that is waiting to be your perfect partner.
Step 4. You must be determined to let go of any inner obsessions. Firmly decide to release any ideas that no longer serve you. Allow your determination to fill your inner being.
Step 5.) Visualize the person you're yearning for in the following ridiculous scenario: close your eyes and picture a screen. This person you yearn for stands behind the screen. The screen slowly starts to reveal their feet. The toenails are so long that they are actually curled up like carrot peels. The feet are dirty and crusty-looking. The screen moves up to reveal the pants, they are bright orange with giant bright polka-dots. The screen continues to move upwards and you see the crazy zebra shirt. Now their face is being revealed. You see them picking their nose. Their hair is in a mohawk and dyed the colors of the rainbow. They motion forward to give you a kiss and you stop them and say "no, our paths are different now, and I no longer wish to be with you. I bless you and wish you well. I request you leave my heart, mind and life forever."
Although this exercise may seem very silly it works on a deep subconscious level to reprogram how you see this person. Eventually, every time you think of them you will start laughing instead of feeling a deep yearning for them.
"The words 'I AM' are potent words; be careful what you hitch to them to. The thing you're claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you."