"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." Rumi
You are a powerful creator, creating your new reality. Your relationships around you are a reflection of that. You cannot focus on something that you want, but focus on the lack of it and expect it to show up. Your attention must stay focused only on that which you desire. Most of the time we are thinking about what we don't want. Example: my ex boyfriend was a cheater, so now I know I don't want to be with a cheater again. So much of how you feel vibrationally is the hurt and suffering that came with being a cheater. Now instead focus on the qualities that you want (I am now with an honest, trustworthy and loving man that adores me). Feel the happiness and focus on only that which you want and do not let your mind travel back to the ex as your do not want something like that again. How do you know your doing this? By how you feel. You start to feel happy and hopeful again. You cannot be sad any longer when you are only allowing your thoughts to focus on the hope of this new partner showing up. Feel the excitement that comes with this, knowing that your order has been placed.
Step 1.) Develop self respect and self love. Never allow yourself to be in a relationship with anyone who speaks or treats you unkindly. Period. Look and see if there is a pattern that has played out in your relationships. Reflect on the relationship with both your parents to see if there is a connection with this. Often times if there has been abandonment or abuse as a child we carry this out in our adult relationships. How are you eating, working out and dressing? Do you look and feel your best? How others see you speaks volumes about your self love. Ask yourself if I met the love of my life tomorrow do I look and feel ready for him/her?
Step 2.) Start to act loving towards everyone around you. Family, coworkers, friends and even the people you see at the coffee shop are all opportunities to express love. The more loving you can be your aura expands and becomes brighter with the energy of love.
Step 3.) Create the space in your bedroom and make it inviting as if your lover is already there. Modify your lighting and place beautiful smelling candles around. Does your bed look inviting? Do you have two night stands? Having only one will keep you single your entire life as this signifies that their is only space for you. Buy attractive looking nightware and make a love playlist filled with sexy music.
Step 4.) Create a detailed list with all the qualities you are looking for. Be as specific as you can. The universe love details. The more detailed you can be the easier it becomes to narrow down that exact partner you are looking for. Write down the qualities that you embody and are bringing to the table. What have you done to get ready for this partner? Did you exit an abusing relationship? Did you loose 50lbs? Write down whatever is is that you have done to allow this divine partner to come into your life?
Step 5.) Say supportive affirmations. Speaking in a positive way about what you are looking for and want will bring it into your life. Versus bringing energy into past unhealthy relationships that are not what you desire.
I AM open and ready for love
I AM now attracting the perfect partner who meets me on every level
I AM worthy and deserving of love
I AM open to receiving a loving relationship
I AM only attracting trustworthy people into my life
I AM a Love Magnet
Step 6.) Ask yourself: Are you worthy of what you are asking for? Often times we carry limited belief systems that were passed on from either our parents, teachers or others that played a significant role in our lives. Were you ever told or made to feel that you are undeserving of love? Look to your past relationships and see if this has ever showed up. Start looking in the mirror and tell yourself I am worthy of love. I AM lovable. By healing this old belief system, we start to create within ourselves a new loving approach to our self dialogue within. Repeating this for 30 days or longer starts to reprogram our old way of thinking and implement a new imprint into our subconscious mind which rewires how we thought of ourselves and others.
Step 7.) Before you go to sleep at night hold a mental image of you two doing an activity that you love. Use your imagination to create as many different scenarios with this new love partner as possible. BE DETAILED! Feel the happy feeling that will come from being with this partner and know that you have given this request to the universe and it will show up. Breathe in Love. Breathe out love. Make that your mantra all day long.