"Everything that happens to you in your teacher. The secret is to learn and sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it."
Allowing yourself to forgive and let go of the pain, is allowing yourself to let go of the past and forgive everyone including ourselves. Carrying your anger towards another is like stabbing yourself over and over again and expecting the other person to feel the pain. In "The Course in Miracles" it says all disease comes from a state of unforgiveness, and that whenever we are ill we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive. Do not spend your entire life punishing yourself for acts that you either blamed yourself or others for. Forgive yourself, forgive them. No matter whether you have caused others pain or feel the pain that others have caused you, you are not there now, you are here. Everybody is doing the best they can with the thought process that they have in this current moment. This is why Jesus said "Forgive them father, for they know not." By recognizing that loving yourself is to forgive all including yourself. Holding on to trauma and painful hurt, and memories immediately triggers sad feelings within us and that is not being in alignment with our highest self which is joy, love, laughter and abundance. When we have painful experiences, whether they are physical or emotional they become stored not only into our subconscious but also into our muscles, our tissue and every fiber of our being. This is often why we develop pain in various parts of our body as they are holding the trauma that our emotional body is holding onto. When you work with various healers such as a kinesiologist they are able to work through each area of our body and see where the problem that your holding onto stemmed from. Often times it is linked to early childhood memories. We must eliminate old memories or feelings or even people that allow us to feel anything less than loved. So by you saying "I am forgiving them" you are ultimitely setting yourself free, and by no means are you saying "its okay what they did to me" but your acknowledge that you are holding onto any painful and toxic memories are not allowing good or better things to come into your life as long as your holding space for this anger inside yourself. I AM realeasing all painful memories in my life. I AM healing myself while forgiving others. Take a piece of paper and make two columns one is marked people who hurt me and the other is marked those I have hurt. List each persons name and what they did. List each persons name you have hurt and write down what they did to you. Next to each one that hurt you write, "I forgive you" and take a moment to see them before you and visualize forgiving them. Now, next to the ones you have hurt write: I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you. This is the Ho'oponopono Hawaiian prayer. Legend has it when a family member falls ill they ask who do you need to forgive? Now take the paper and roll it up and burn it and say to yourself all is forgiven. Take the ashes and either throw them to the wind or into a body of running water (toilet works well).
I AM allowing myself to forgive anyone who has ever hurt me. I AM allowing divine healing light through me. As I AM forgiving others I AM forgiving myself as well I AM releasing all past pain and hurt that others or myself may have caused. I AM letting go of any painful memories or feelings that no longer serve me. I AM one with the divine and the divine says forgive as they know not. I AM forgiving I AM forgived I AM only allowing people into my life that love, respect, and honor my divine self.